Solo Travel – It’s Good for the Soul

Recently I spend five days alone in Redwood City, California while I was having treatments at Stanford University for a minor but annoying problem. Thankfully, the daily procedures were quick and painless, so I had ample time to write with a little time left over to enjoy that gorgeous part of the Bay Area. I usually travel with Tim, but he’s a busy man and couldn’t get away for this little journey.

Although I always miss him, I do enjoy the chance to be isolated for a few days from all that is familiar. Traveling alone allows me to explore corners of my overloaded brain that I rarely visit, to ruminate and take stock of the past, the present, and to speculate about my plans for the future. I also have to muzzle my natural garrulous impulses because there’s no one there to hear me.

I promised myself that I would take a break from my work to revisit Filoli House and Gardens, which were a mere seven minutes away from the cute little studio cottage I was renting.

Filoli House, a modified-Georgian mansion, restored and furnished with taste and restraint, always makes me feel as if I’ve been invited to visit someone’s warm but elegant home for a party. But it’s the gardens that beckon me to return again and again. I’m convinced that this is the way God would build a garden if he had the money!

Since Tim and I almost always travel together, it’s unusual for me to experience such lavish beauty without having someone handy to nudge and share comments. Eventually, I was so overcome with joy at some of the plants and designs in the garden that I couldn’t control myself and exclaimed my pleasure to strangers. This produced mixed results from my unwitting companions, but at least I found a lovely Asian lady who offered to take my photo with the luscious wisteria that draped elegantly from almost every building, wall, and pergola.

Since neither you nor Tim was with me, I’ll  share what I saw with photos and videos. It would have been much more satisfying to poke you with my elbow and point out my discoveries personally, but this will have to do.





I loved my stolen afternoon at Filoli for many reasons, but this time, in addition to lifting my heart and spirits with the beauty that always awaits me there, visiting alone gave me a great opportunity to renew my acquaintance with myself. It’s the same private communion I feel when kneeling in my own garden, touching the earth and experiencing the sense of renewal and hope that all gardeners feel when planting a crop, flower bed, or tree. And although my little plot is light years away from the magnificence of Filoli, I still feel a deep connection with the real master gardener!

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  1. Cheryl Coleman

    Greetings! Great post as always – really enjoy reading up on your adventures and lifestyle as a retired woman. I definitely agree with your sentiment of needing alone time and self-renewal.
    I was wondering if you ever considered Housesitting as a means for travel and income. It is a low-maintenance job and has the benefit of free accommodation – perfect for a senior! Housesitters have the chance to experience a different lifestyle in a new location. I recommend visiting a website like to view opportunities for you!

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  3. Bonnie Carleton

    Love this post and the thoughtfulness about alone time. As a retired couple traveling full time, we rarely have separate experiences and yes, there’s always someone to nudge and share it all with. But there’s something to be said about having a break, to let parts of ourselves come out and to see ourselves as individuals. We lived in Woodside, CA and make the short trip to Filoli in the Spring and it never failed to amaze us. Thanks for posting.

  4. Mary Margaret

    Lynne: You look stunning! Thanks for sharing the gorgeous photos and videos. This will be included on our “bucket list”!

  5. Pat Morris

    Thanks for another beautiful post Lynne. I second your appreciation for time alone. It is necessary for me if I want to continue to grow my authentic self, truly tend to this God given gift of my life!

  6. Joy Patrick

    La Vizcaya in Miami, Florida is another beautiful place to visit. Many young ladies celebrating their Quincenera (15th birthday) pose in the many lovely gardens for professional photographs.

  7. Britton

    Beautiful garden, Filoli Gardens! I want to go! When in northwest Italy, on Lake Maggiore, visit Villa Taranto. Beautiful gardens at the foot of the Italian Alps!

  8. Candi Licence

    Lynne, Fioli Gardens are beautiful. I’ve never heard of them but are now on my list for the nest time I’m in San Fran. Thanks for sharing. This visit was probably the perfect antidote to whatever treatments you were having. Be well and happy. Warm Regards.

  9. Patricia Faino

    My favorite is still Monet’s garden in Giverny France

  10. Cathy

    I think you would like Butchart Gardens in Victoria, BC. A good place to put on your travel list if you have not been there already.

  11. Ruth

    Great blog and loved the pictures and videos. Well done. Also, I feel getting away alone is very healthy. You get time to restore yourself and maybe even learn new things about yourself at any age. It also gives you and who ever you left at home, an opportunity to appreciate you more when you return.